It might sound trite to tell high conflict parents to read, but reading actually helps. If you can get your clients to commit to just read a few chapters of any of the following books, there is a chance of real progress in some of the high conflict cases we see.
Most high conflict parents aren’t fighting out of a love of fighting—they are fighting out of hurt, anger, a lack of information, a lack of understanding, and very very poor communication.
Check out any or all of the following for real parenting help for your clients:
Parenting After Divorce, by Phil Stahl, Ph.D
The Co-Parenting Survival Guide: Letting Go of Conflict After a Difficult Divorce, by Jeffrey Zimmerman, Ph.D. and Elizabeth Thayer, Ph.D.
Joint Custody With a Jerk, by Julie Ross and Judy Cochran (terrible title, good book)
What About the Kids? Raising Your Children Before, During and After Divorce, by Judith Wallerstein (especially the chapter on High Conflict Divorce)