Here’s a good article to help you tell the children about the divorce, from Divorce Magazine online:
And here are books recommended in this article, organized by the age of the children:
Dinosaurs Divorce: A Guide for Changing Families by Marc Brown and Laurence Krasny Brown (Little, Brown & Co.)
Dinosaur characters help convey the message that everything will be "okay" for little ones. This book deals with children’s common concerns and questions and provides comfort and reassurance.
Mama and Daddy Bear’s Divorce by Cornelia Spelman (Albert Whitman & Company)
Children read along with Dinah bear as she deals with her feelings of sadness and fear about her parents’ divorce and learns that both parents will still be there for her, even after divorce. A special note to parents outlines children’s typical concerns.
I Don’t Want to Talk About It: A Story About Divorce for Young Children by Jeanie Franz Ransom (Magination Press)
Children will relate to the narrator of this book, whose parents have just told her they are getting a divorce. The full range of emotions children experience is explored through metaphors of animals that the little girl uses to express her feelings. A two-page message to parents provides tips that can help in dealing with a young child’s reaction to the news about the divorce.
Preteens and Teens
The Divorce Helpbook by Teens by Cynthia MacGregor (Impact Publishers):
This book talks to teens about divorce; discusses the emotions they’re feeling; and addresses many of the difficult issues they may be thinking about, such as how to deal with the sadness and depression they feel, how to tell one parent that they don’t want to spend as much time with him or her, and what to do if their parents are trying to make them go-betweens.
How it Feels When Parents Divorce by Jill Krementz (Knopf):
This book can be helpful to teens as well as younger children. It shares the experiences and feelings of children whose parents have gone through a divorce. The book helps children understand that the emotions they may be feeling are normal and that other children of divorce have had to deal with many of the very same changes that they’re facing now.
My Parents are Divorced, Too: A Book for Kids by Kids by Jan Blackstone-Ford, Annie Ford, Melanie Ford, and Steven Ford (Magination Press):
Written by kids for kids, this book takes on the toughest questions your older kids (ages 8 to 12 year, approximately) may have about your divorce.